He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds. (Ps. 147:3)
“. . . and then he said he didn’t love me anymore.” Stella’s voice cracked. She began to cry. Rhonda struggled with how to respond. She could hear the pain in Stella’s words. Having known Stella and Tom for years, she couldn’t conceive of him leaving her. They seemed to have the ideal marriage. Rhonda fumbled for the right words to say, but her mind was blank. “Stella, I’m in shock. I can’t imagine this. I wish I knew what to say.”
“What can you say?” Stella said. “I just don’t understand. I never thought he’d do anything like this.”
“Stella, I know how painful this is, and I want you to know I’m here for you. We’ll get through this together. God has answers for you, and I promise to help you find them. Let me pray with you.”
When a friend’s marriage falls apart, we struggle to know what to do. Particularly if we have not successfully worked through a serious marital crisis ourselves, it may look hopeless in our eyes. But when God is brought into the situation, marriages can be restored. God promises that He “heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds”(Ps. 147:3). He tells us, “My ways are higher than your ways” (Isa. 55:9). Even a person who feels no love for his spouse may discover months later that those feelings of love have returned when God has a chance to work in both their lives.
If you have a friend in marital crisis, spend time with her, listen to her, give her hope, and encourage her to give it time. Studies show that many people who persevere are able to reconcile and end up with a stronger marriage than before.