Day 25: Confidence in Your Mate

Just as you want others to do for you, do the same for them. (Luke 6:31)

“It must be hard having your ‘handsome doctor’ husband working with all of those women. Do you ever wonder if he’ll be unfaithful?” I was a bit taken aback by my neighbor Mary’s boldness.

I said, “I did have some jealousy issues when Mark and I first got engaged, but when I prayed about it, God gave me the confidence I needed to admit my insecurities to Mark. It really helped him to see things from my point of view.”

Mary said, “I don’t know if I would have been able to keep from getting jealous if it was me. But I’m suspicious about a  lot of things. That happens when you’ve been cheated on before. But maybe you two are different.” Mary was still bitter after her divorce. Her ex-husband had had an affair with a coworker for two years before Mary discovered it.

“I’m sorry for what you went through,” I said. “But Mark and I decided from the beginning that neither one of us would put ourselves in vulnerable positions where we might be tempted. We have certain rules we’ve agreed on when interacting with the opposite sex—like no confiding about our marriage, avoiding spending time alone together—things like that. We asked God to give us both wisdom and to help us keep our hearts pure.”

Marriage is a covenant we make with God and with our spouse—the joining together of two people who follow Him and live according to His laws. It’s not easy to trust another person, especially if you’ve been hurt before. But God can heal your wounds and help you have the kind of healthy relationship that brings glory and honor to Him. Trust Him to meet all of your needs.

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